Tuesday, July 23, 2013

The ask vs. tell ... what??

My son is 8 and often he will say to me, “Mom can I tell you something?”

Me:  “Of course. What?”

Son: “Can I …?”

Me: “That is a questions not a tell, Honey.” Then answer his questions. Or vise versa…

No wonder he gets confused now and then with tell/statement and ask/questions when adults still do.  Sad is the English language these days. Who and whom still be fudge the majority of the population, prepositions and their usage in language are unknown to many as well as just plain old every day run of the mill regular grammar.  Yes I do excuse, only because I am one too, the phone texts or email replies with no capitals and strange word usage, we have all been there… typing with your thumb can be a challenge for us all.

No I am talking the bigger stuff. I really hate and am shocked to see the amount of AP and Reuter news reports on my phone with misspelled words, grammar that would make a pre schoolar blush and word usage that cancel each other out… double negatives, we is, I are going  and on and on… I cannot believe many of the reporters are still employed as it makes not only themselves look stupid but the company employing them and allowing their name to be posted on the article.  Or non phone replies confusing the ask/tell quandary, I is and all that. Typos are one thing but seriously if it is not going to a friend or loved one, proof read and spell check. And for Heaven’s sake know a tell apart from an ask. It is all in how it is written.

Heaven help our children and our country’s future!  Hopefully somewhere along the way there is a reform that will help our youth figure it out better since so many adults seem to have no clue.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

400k websites... blogs, newsletters...!

Ok, so you are probably wondering… what??

My publisher contacted me the other day and wants to promote me and my book on over 400k websites.  Cool!!  And WOW!!!

I had ordered a review from them a few months back, guess it was a new thing and they are now wanting to promote me promoting it… of course – there is their driving force behind it all. But hey, promotion is promotion. And free is even better!!

They tell me at the end of the month (nope – not holding my breath) on when it will all happen.  I filled out their questionnaire today and sent it off back to them.  So now I wait.

Hmm, will be interesting to see where it shows up and if I get a list of who gets it.  Oh, and no, not really expecting anything to come of it, but it would be awesome if it did. Even just a few copies to sell would be nice.

It was a great little tool – showing unique words, concepts and ideas of the book and how my book compared to several others in the same genera. There are a few concepts I am not sure how to include in my writing but overall it was a good review. Ways to improve and areas that are already doing good – but there is always room for improvement.

Monday, July 8, 2013

seriously ... more drama ~ UGH

rant ...

Why create drama when there is no need of it?  Why make others deal with your own self hatred and misery?  Seriously if you are that turned in on yourself fine, there is nothing the rest of us can do about it after awhile and it is just tiresome and makes you look stupid and petty. Deal with reality. Get a grip and move on.  It is a better, happier and friendlier place you will enjoy more than your self inflected life of misery...  or at least leave me out of it and do not bring me into drama I really do not need to be part of, or anyone else for that matter...

Loyalty, Friendship, Betrayal

 Loyalty.  Friendship.   Betrayal…

Hmm.  Words.  Important words in life. They help define us. Help us see and understand the world around us. How we use these determines how we are treated by others. We choose wisely or we do not, either way we are changed with each interaction of these words.

So is friendship grown or earned? Is loyalty given or won over time?  What happens when the idea of friendship and loyalty are betrayed and forsaken? When past transgressions against a person called “friend” are forgotten or not addressed to make a decision easy and convenient?

Is friendship lost or just put aside until there is a more convenient time and ideal situation? Is loyalty gone or also pushed aside until the next time it is needed? Is it still expected from you as an absolute? What are your new obligations? Do you hold fast and remain a trustworthy ally no matter what, or do you step aside and allow others to move about without you? Do you return the lack of devotion when it is required of you?

Where does your inward and personal meaning of the words take you and how do you react to the betrayal and lack of support from others?

Feelings of hurt, betrayal, no matter how small a cause will grow and fester for awhile. How do you deal with it?

There are many ways to cope with this occurrence as there are grains of sand on a beach, but which way do you pick? What do you do when it happens to you?

It is a question we each struggle with often in your lives. Friends come and go, loyalties change as they are tested over time, betrayal appears without regret, concern or a second thought. Sometimes remaining loyal to one means being disloyal to another, so to whom  you remain  most faithful and steadfast to will say a lot about you and your ideals, your inner self, the friendships effected. It will define you as a friend and a person ~ good or bad, loyal or unfaithful.

We choose one or the other. There really is no right or wrong. Hopefully chosen is the better of the two and as life moves forward it’s revealed as the right choice to all. Perhaps by picking one over another, a friend is moving on, out of our lives and this is a way the universe is revealing the beginning of this transition to us.

Smile and move on, remain a friend as best as possible until the future is completely shown to you, then you will know you did the right thing. You stood for what was right and were an ally of faithfulness and friendship.

Pulling back from those that let you down and offered to you unreliability is not a bad thing. Move away and find those in the world who will stand by you and support you, even in the little things in life that seem small and insignificant, because at times those are really what matters most.